Toxic people

I've attended a workshop on LEADERSHIP AND CAREER DEVELOPMENT FOR YOUNG LECTURERS. Am I still young??? Hahaha. However, the topics covered are pretty much the same for other workshops on developing leadership skill (not just for lecturers (as expected though). Anticipating my mind through the workshop I realised that certain things presented differs from any other stuff that I had gone through before. The speakers, (TNC A of UTM) were relating all the skills presented with real life experience as an academics and administrator. This is kind of a rare situation and pretty much a hands-on learning into the topics with more precise details. One of the main topics that he mentioned was the Toxic People. In any organizations, there would be couple of people with certain or specific characteristic. We are not talking about the looks and appearance although this is quite essential but the leadership qualities. Types of people are crucial in order for any organization to succeed in pretty much everything. While explaining a meeting scenario, he mentioned about the ‘Toxic People’. This brought me far away from my desk and starts to evaluate matter for my own perspective. Colleagues, friends and subordinate have been a subject matter of my quest for this toxic. Strictly, I’m not labelling anyone however just to put the puzzle into place.

How to recognize this toxic branch of life? Well, this defined by certain criteria such as:

(source: http://hubpages.com/hub/ToxicPeople)

How to Recognize Toxic People Following is a list of commonly encountered types of toxic people, with descriptions of their basic toxic characteristics. 1. The Psychopath: The Psychopath lacks empathy and sympathy, is completely devoid of a conscience, and derives pleasure from others' suffering.

2. The Sociopath: The Sociopath completely disregards the rights and feelings of others, and is incapable of experiencing remorse, shame or guilt.

3. The Pathological Liar: The Pathological Liar lacks the capacity to tell the truth-in fact, the pathological lacks the ability to even recognize the truth.

4. The Emotional Wreck: The Emotional Wreck is constantly on an emotional rollercoaster. This individual simply cannot keep it together.

5. The Putdown Artist: The Putdown Artist is constantly making others the butt of jokes in an attempt to deflect attention away from their own shortcomings.

6. The Hatemonger/Blamemonger: The Hatemonger/Blamemonger hates everyone who is nicer, smarter, richer, better connected or more successful than they are. The Hatemonger/Blamemonger blames every individual and every group of individuals that is different from them for all of their particular problems, as well as for everything the Hatemonger/Blamemonger believes is wrong with the world in general.

7. The Misogynist/Misandrist/Misanthrope: The Misogynist hates women. The Misandrist hates women. The Misanthrope hates ALL humans without regard to gender. The Misogynist/Misandrist/Misanthrope blames women, men or people in general for all of their problems and failures.

8. The World Class Jerk: The World Class Jerk is a classless, uncouth, foul-mouthed jackass who is universally offensive.

9. The Moocher: The Moocher constantly asks to borrow everything money to breath mints. The Moocher develops amnesia when it's time to pay back a loan, and is never able to reciprocate a favor.

10. The Downer: The Downer is always in a bad mood. In fact, The Downer takes great pains to maintain their bad mood and to broadcast it to anyone who will listen.

11. The Illwill Ambassador: The Illwill Ambassador seeks out bad news and rumors and works overtime to make sure no one misses out on their malevolent mudslinging.

12. The Instigator: The Instigator lives to create discord, hostility and strife. The Instigator actually nurtures confrontation.

13. The Bully: The Bully thrives on dominating and humiliating those they perceive as weaker than them.

14. The Master Manipulator: The Master Manipulator uses cunning, trickery and subterfuge to control victims.

15. The Blackmailer: The Blackmailer works hard to gain your trust so they can learn your secrets and weaknesses and exploit them when you cross them.

16. The Blabbermouth: The Blabbermouth tells everything they know--especially your personal business.

17. The Generally Malcontent: The Generally Malcontent finds dissatisfaction with everything and makes a point of never being happy...ever.

18. The Love Predator: The Love Predator pretends to be your friend, finds out all your business and uses it to try to get your spouse or lover into bed. The Love Predator doesn't actually want your spouse or lover; they want you to know they slept with (or could have slept with) your spouse or lover.

19. The Self-Destructor: The Self-Destructor eats too much, drinks too much, smokes too much and parties too much. The Self-Destructor is the embodiment of the word reckless.

Avoid them as much as necessary. I’ve encountered with no 1,2,3,5,6,16, and 17 How about you guys out there? No 1 should pay a visit to the nearest Mental Institution.

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SPRING FEST@ UTEM

05/03/2011

My friend from HEPA invited me to watch this show by the Chinese Cultural Club in UTeM. Thanks Bro Zem for the invitation. Frankly, they really know what they are doing. Eventhough its not that perfect but consider it for the angle that they are not a pro. However, they did a really good job. I can't imagine how this people (a usual student) could remember such long lines for this play. I should applause on the sound system that UTeM had because the sound quality is no where near average. It was outstanding despite the sound of breath form the actors mainly because of the micropohone positioned to near. I just wonder, when can I see the Malay play on the UTeM stage. Perhaps, not in near future.......

SPRING FEST@ UTEM



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PRK: Merlimau (N27) & Kerdau(N28)- By-Election Result

•Barisan Nasional (BN) mempertahankan kerusi Dewan Undangan Negeri (DUN) Merlimau (N27) dan DUN Kerdau (N28) dalam pilihan raya kecil di kedua-dua kawasan itu semalam dengan meraih majoriti undi yang lebih besar.


•Di Merlimau, calon BN Roslan Ahmad, 44, memperoleh majoriti 3,643 undi menewaskan calon Pas, Yuhaizad Abdullah, 38. Di Kerdau pula, Syed Ibrahim Syed Ahmad, 44, mendapat majoriti 2,724 undi mengalahkan calon Pas, Hassanuddin Salim, 43.

Sumber: Utusan Malaysia

Just wondering, when will the campaigning session would be held without pointing on each other's fault. Just concentrating on how good you are as a leader...


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Feeling glad

I was wondering is it me or just the day? I should be hectic and slow today but neither that happens. Just a sudden thought of dreaming that rises to my mind. Maybe just the passion and courage that motivates me. Despite of being purely a natural human being, now I learn something which not really that new. Life must goes on doesn't matter what happen while driving through it. There are still a lot of things to do and yet to be done. Naturally, throw away the darkness and bring laughter to your life (if you may). I guess if I can do that then I'm no more natural as I could be.

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2002-2004 Honda Civic Type-R

Posted on 11.29.2005 14:52 by Alex Damian
Filed under: Honda Honda Civic hatchback

The second generation Honda Civic Type-R is built at Honda’s Swindon factory in the United Kingdom, and exported to other countries, including Japan. It is the same factory that builds the Civic Si.

Features
The front-wheel-drive Type-R Civic only comes in three-door hatchback form, same as the Si, but the Type-R has stiffer body with front and rear bracing struts, and comes standard with a complete "ground effects" kit, rear spoiler, mesh grille, lower suspension and 17 inch wheels. The interior is fitted with Alcantara-trimmed sports seats, a metallic-trim center console and a rally-style six-speed manual shifter. Luxuries are kept at a minimum, with only power windows, remote power door locks and a CD player. No GPS navigation, no heated seats and no other such niceties are offered, not even as options.

The Type-R is powered by the new i-VTEC 4 cylinder engine, similar to the 200 hp Acura RSX Type-S engine, but different from the 160 hp Civic Si powerplant. The i-VTEC unit provides for smoother power delivery, unlike older VTEC engines which gave a sudden boost at a certain rpm. Like all Honda engines, the Type-R’s 197 hp engine provides most of its power in the higher rev range and is characteristically short on torque, with a peak torque figure of only 145 lb-ft, with barely anything available in the lower rev range. The six-speed close-ratio gearbox handles the power delivery. The car is built on a modified version of the current four-door Civic, meaning MacPherson strut suspension up front and double wishbones at the rear. The change from four-wheel double wishbones has noticeably hurt the handling dynamics of the Civic sedan, but it is less apparent in the highly-tuned Type-R. Large four-wheel disc brakes, vented at the front, offer decent braking performance, with ABS and EBD (Electronic Brake force Distribution) being standard features. The 17 inch alloy wheels are wrapped with ultra low profile 205/45R17 tyres.

The Civic Type-R has been on sale in Europe, Japan and some Middle Eastern countries for more than a year now. Rumor has it that the car will be offered in the Fall of 2003 as a 2004 model, although American Honda has been tight-lipped about any such plans.

source: http://www.topspeed.com/cars/honda/2002-2004-honda-civic-type-r-ar541.html

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Grim

Do the dance, while you may
run the road while dust is gray
bottom of my heart I felt sorrow
down my mind i want to throw
the knowledge I gain
the fear i keen
It would follow me
whenever I'm in pain
distribute it while you may
while people don't really crave
the essence
the bit
the section
of your truthful knowledge
you will stand with some greatness
behold the key and try to forget
the grim manner in peoples heart

kam


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In the nights - Song from BR

"In The Night"

In the city, the day is too hot
And you're hoping for relief, 'cuz your head is filled with pain,
But you get no relief, 'cuz the night is the same...
In the night, in the night you see through jaded eyes.
In the night, in the night you feel barely alive.
You live your life in darkness, you've got pennies on your eyes.
But you say that it's all right, 'cuz you've never lived a lie,
As you crawl back to your womblike existence in the night.
In the night, in the night you see through jaded eyes.
In the night, in the night you feel barely alive.
You can't see no light, but you hear those heavy footsteps,
And the little man inside twists your tormented mind.
Your mind is filled with shadows, your palms are wet with sweat.
Limbs are bound and tangled in a fatal net.
There are two things you can do.
One is turn and fight.
The other's run headlong into the night.
In the night, in the night you see through jaded eyes.
In the night, in the night you feel barely alive.
You can't see no light, but you hear those heavy footsteps,
And the breathing at your side, is it yours, or is it
Good bye!

Taken from BR

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Melaka River Cruise

It's been a while for me to take this cruise. Several reasons were given (by myself) to hold this up. Firstly, I've tried to do so sometime last year and it was full packed with people. Even the queue was up to the Hang Tuah Bridge (the bridge near to Pengkalan Rama Pantai)- If I'm not mistaken. This was when the the early opening of this site. Then me and wife went there again with another member of the family and again, we were disappointed. However, today a friend/relative/colleague of mine turn out to be in Malacca. So, we went there around 9.00pm and we managed to get the seat. Reasons the place were empty (I guess) is because of the heat of by-election in Merlimau. everyone is busy to be there. The tourist is more likely as an election- tourist. Secondly, the hazy rain might be one of the cause indeed.


While cruising, we were given the VIP boat with couple of people geared with keyboard and microphone. The rain doesn't stop me on enjoying the scene. Even though I've been in Malacca for more than a year now, the journey is still like the place I haven't been before. The view is for the rear section of shops and buildings. Not forgetting how beautiful and decorative the rear section was.This were all the effort of the State Government from what I heard through the guidance voice throughout the cruise. We had a Dondang Sayang treat while on our way back upriver.

People did say that the river holds some kind of unpleasant smell and I'm quite skeptical on such reviews and start to look for it. However, for the whole 45 minutes journey, there are only one spot that contain the unwanted smell. In addition, it was just a fresh water smell not like a stinking or rotten food smell which I was anticipated.

I didn't take any photo since I was more concern on my camera equipment which can't get together with rain nicely. I'll try to make this writing more meaningful next time by adding some pictures inline with the words.

I should say that a lot of effort that has been thrown in order to change the perspective and also mindset of the people in Malacca. Previously, nobody cares for cleanliness of the river but now it is totally differ from the brutal past. How MUCH effort had been spent but I believe that they would be used towards enhancing the city scape through this cruise.

To all- I would say, please take this cruise at least once.
For people of Malacca- Do take this cruise since we might not know our own town (rear scenary) and its beauty.


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Eventhough you don't like me, Don't Bull**** yourself

We are who we are
Predetermined on what we do.
Pretending that we couldn't care less for others
The passion that we build
The courage that it takes
We do
Nonetheless we tend to forget
Selfishness and hatred
Or just bloody ignorant yet to condemned
Filled throughout our soul
Who am I to judge nor making judgement
My opinion is always down the basement
Comment and torment
Thinking that my time has come to arouse my thought
You might think to draft
Of people agony and whispering the craft
Through your naked mind and have a drought
When the rain comes you'll be the first to drown
Can you beat the the humming bees
do complete the nature's cycle
or have you thought of humming bird
making sounds by clapping wings
Who are you to bull**** yourself
And get away with it?



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Democracy

Taken from dictionary.com

de·moc·ra·cy   /dɪˈmɒkrəsi/ Show Spelled[dih-mok-ruh-see]
–noun, plural -cies.

1. government by the people; a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them or by their elected agents under a free electoral system.

2. a state having such a form of government: The United States and canada are democracies.

3. a state of society characterized by formal equality of rights and privileges.

4. political or social equality; democratic spirit.

5. the common people of a community as distinguished from any privileged class; the common people with respect to their political power.


Origin:
1525–35; < Middle French démocratie < Late Latin dēmocratia < Greek dēmokratía popular government, equivalent to dēmo- demo- + -kratia -cracy —Related forms an·ti·de·moc·ra·cy, noun, plural -cies, adjective non·de·moc·ra·cy, noun, plural -cies. pre·de·moc·ra·cy, noun, plural -cies. pro·de·moc·ra·cy, adjective

Democracy sentence examples
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*The word usage examples above have been gathered from various sources to reflect current and historical usage. They do not represent the opinions of YourDictionary.com.

• Why should we give our votes to the Concertación when their agenda deepens inequality and undermines democracy?

• democracy in the workplace is a smart move.

• We welcome new members to join in the fight for a liberal democracy.

• democracy cookbook Get the Democracy Cookbook from the Electoral commission.

• The AA is proud to have the benefit of an active and participatory democracy.

• democracyre worse both in terms of living standards and human rights than the Western social democracies.

• The network aims to deepen democracy through greater citizen participation in local governance.

• democracy in the country.

• Coverage of the scrutiny process is central to our parliamentary democracy.

• democracy movement.

• The widespread belief in the robustness of the rule of law in Britain certainly reflects our reputation as a vibrant multicultural democracy.

• It is hoped that this change will strengthen democracy.

• democracy in the region.

• In point of fact, bourgeois democracy is the political formula for free trade, nothing more.

• And not everyone thinks that shareholder democracy is in such a bad way.

• And unless that happens, policies to tackle poverty and revitalize democracy will not succeed.

• Participation in political life was one of the pillars of Athenian democracy.

• Download our full statement on use of the electoral register Recommendations on mayoral elections ( January 2002 ) In our report Reinvigorating Local democracy?

• During the early 1990s, under pressure from Western aid donors, the Moi government was finally forced to concede to a multi-party democracy.

• Mr Blair, you talk about the right to bomb others in order to defend democracy.


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